The Heroine’s Journey of Eghonghon Mary Ayemere

What is the best thing that I love about my work? My work is very exciting,it gives me the freedom to express myself to the fullest.The connection I get with people as they share their stories with me gives me the fulfillment I have always dream of .

What is my idea of perfect happiness? I do not believe in having a perfect life,spending quality time with my children especially since they are In boarding school. Having peace of mind, staying healthy and being able to make other people happy.

What is my greatest fear? Failure of not being able to complete everything I hope to accomplish .i am a very positive person I hate to entertain fear, but we all have fears. I was with my grandmother on her last days on earth, she suffered from dementia and lost most of her memories. Not being able to remember the wonderful memories of all I have shared with my beautiful children,family and friends is my fear.

What is the trait that I most deplore in myself? I want everything done immediately, just want to do things so perfect,I keep trusting even though I have been hurt a number of times.

Which living persons in my profession do I most admire? Katharina Maria, she is an empowerment coach I admire her positivity to life. Allison Coughlan ,I just love how she has encouraged me and makes me want to do more.

What is my greatest extravagance? My clothes and my hair,I dress in a unique way, I always make a very outstanding statement that creates a wonderful first impression. My hair is always tired  in a unique way and that is kind of my signature. I use every opportunity I get to give my children the best holidays.

On what occasion would I lie? If am lying it has to be to  protect my children. I have come al long  way with them, will do all it takes to keep them safe.

What is the thing that I dislike the  most in my work? When I feel my work is not good enough,it takes my time a lot especially putting everything together and making sure I still put my other business intact.

When and where was I the happiest,in my work? I am always happy when I see people inspired  and transformed through my work. I am my happiest when I see other people happy especially young girls when they share their challenges with me. I just love it when i speak to my clients one on one and they trust me with  their stories ,even when I feel I am not perfect, anytime I am speaking on stage holding the mic, I  see the light that shines on the faces of those listening to me. When people come to me and say they wish I will continue speaking ,reading wonderful comments from people appreciating my work it is always overwhelming.

If I could,what would I change about myself?  My life lessons have built my self-love and confidence. I have no regrets everything that has happened to me has sharpened my life. I have learnt gratitude and the power of waiting, I feel blessed ,I feared weather life was going to work to my favor but God has given me direction to define my purpose.

What is my greatest achievement in work? Although I only just started speaking, my greatest achievement was going to speak in a  local community to victims of domestic violence. Before I left the number of women who secretly waited for me to speak with me one one was very emotional for me.

Where would I most like to live?  Moving from one place to the other gives you the knowledge about life ,people and different culture. I live in  Abuja, Nigeria and I have lived all my life here, but I love Europe Austria especially. Even though I can’t speak their dialect but I enjoy almost everything about the city, I would love to live in Vienna ,but come back home to Nigeria where I have a strong connection with families and very wonderful people.

What is my most treasured possession? My kids.

What is my most marked characteristic? My determination, I always finish what I start.

What is my most inspirational location,in my city? I  really do not go out and do not really have any special place ,but sometimes I drive out to a place called games village. The trees, peace and quite. Especially in the evenings.

What is my favorite place to eat and drink,in my city? Okay It is not my thing to eat out ,I cook a lot ,I  Love  to try new recipes ,my kids love me cooking .i love ice cream so I go to Cold Stone Creamery at Aminu Kano Cres Wuse Abuja . I do not drink .

What books influenced my life and how? I love reading,i have read a lot of books. But I  can not stop reading Keith Harrell, ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING ,I  am a positive thinker so his books gives me more positivity.

Who are my favorite writers? Alice Munro ,Keith Harrell and Stephen King .

You only die once.What music would I listen to on my last day? Michael Jackson earth song.

Who is my hero or heroine in fiction? Tracy Bateman

Who are my heroes and heroines in real life? My mum and dad who stood by their family throughout difficult times, they made sure we achieved so much by giving good education and good family valves.
My friend  WURAOLLY   OGUN ,for the strength she has ,empowering  young girls and her fight to END VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN.
My grandmother Madam AGNES IREKPITAN EBHODAGHE  for achieving so much for herself and her family,especially in a time when being a single mother was not acceptable in her community. She was well schooled and reached the highest level .she was able to raise 5 children on her own and some many others with good education.
NGOZI OKONJO-IWEALA is a powerful woman,she represents woman by using her level of education to help raise awareness to building Africa .

Which movie would I recommend to see once in a lifetime? Dr,No Sean Connery .

What role does art play in my life and work?  Art is everywhere in my work,it represents entertainment to me. I love to listen to beautiful music with good lyrics,it just brings inspiration to my life.

Who is my greatest fan,sponsor, partner in crime? My younger cousin is my greatest fan MARY OSO IYOHA, she can not stop barging about me,she shares all my post,works and respects me,she is my greatest fan.
My daughter DANIELLA OKEMENA  she actually discovered me before I discovered myself.
My sponsor is my friend WURAOLLY OGUN, she will do anything it takes to show me to the world.
Partner in crime is my sister VANESSA ODION OKOJIE  and my friend  AKAMAKUSI DORCAS UDHEDHE  they will do anything with me, they have been by my side through good and bad times.

Whom would I work with in 2018? I am going to do all it takes to be seen and heard, I am ready to take my chance with a  good speaker I would come across.

Which people in my profession would I love to meet in 2018?  I will Yael Rose I just love her, anytime I watch her live video I get more inspired.

What project,in 2018,am I looking forward to work on? Creating more awareness on Early Child Marriage, work on Ending Violence Against Women,and start Publishing my book.

Where can you see me on my work in 2018? I am very active on social media,Facebook,Instagram,Twitter, LinkedIn  and Periscope. My full website will be available soon,do not forget to follow me on Facebook.

What do the words “Passion Never Retires” mean to me? I like the fact that when you do what you are really passionate about you do not need a vacation from it, This is my passion from childhood and I am living it.i want to be remembered not forgotten.

Which creative heroes should Peter invite to tell their story? Allison Coughlan has a way of telling you can do great things for her age I respect how well she has taken care of herself.

How can you contact me? You can  email me , send me messages on Facebook or Twitter.

What follows is a message of Peter de Kuster,  the founder of the Heroine’s Journey

What is Your Story?

One Day Tour with Peter de Kuster  in the greatest bookstores of your favorite city. In Paris, Rome, Florence, Barcelona, Berlin, London and Amsterdam we offer this unique What is your Story? experience.  To (re) write your story about yourself and your work. In the process transforming your capacity to successfully have the creative life and work you love. 

In this journey, Peter de Kuster,  founder of The Heroine’s Journey explores with you the way we tell stories about ourselves to ourselves — and, most important, the way we can change those stories to transform our creative business and life.

“Your story is your art, your art is your story,” says Peter. As human beings, we continually tell ourselves stories — of success or failure; of power or victimhood; stories that endure for an hour, or a day, or an entire lifetime. We have stories about our creative challenges, our art, our clients, our money, our self promotion, our time, our families and relationships, our health; about what we want and what we’re capable of achieving. Yet, while our stories profoundly affect how others see us and we see ourselves, too few of us even recognize that we’re telling stories, or what they are, or that we can change them — and, in turn, transform our very destinies.

Telling ourselves stories provides structure and direction as we navigate life’s challenges and opportunities, and helps us interpret our goals and skills. Stories make sense of chaos; they organize our many divergent experiences into a coherent thread; they shape our entire reality. And far too many of our stories, says Peter, are dysfunctional, in need of serious editing. First, he asks you to answer the question, “In which areas of my creative life and business is it clear that I cannot achieve my goals with the story I’ve got?” He then shows you how to create new, reality-based stories that inspire you to action, and take you where you want to go both in your work and personal life.

Our capacity to tell stories is one of our profoundest gifts. Peter’s approach to creating deeply engaging stories will give you the tools to wield the power of storytelling and forever change your creative business and life.

Become a great Storyteller

That’s why I set up What is your Story? service in the great cities of the world and their great bookstores. A new way to use the power of your story.  To guide you to life-changing, eye-opening but often elusive works of literature, both past and present, the books of fiction that truly have the power to enchant, enrich and inspire.

In two days with Peter de Kuster you’ll explore your relationship with books so far and your unique story identity will be sketched. You will be guided to books that can put their finger on what you want to rewrite in your story, the feelings that you may often have had but perhaps never understood so clearly before; books that open new perspectives and re-enchant the world for you.

You will be asked to complete a questionnaire in advance of your session and you’ll be given an instant story advice and books to read to take away. Your full story advice and books to read list will follow within a couple of days.


What Can I Expect?

Here’s an outline of the WHAT IS YOUR STORY? journey.

Journey Outline


  • What is your Story?
  • Are you even trying to tell a Story?
  • Old Stories  (stories about you, your art, your clients, your money, your self promotion, your happiness, your health)
  • Tell your current Story
  • Is this Really Your Story?


  • The Premise of your Story. The Purpose of your Life and Art
  • The words on your tombstone
  • You ultimate mission, out loud
  • The Seven Great Plots
  • The Twelve Archetypal Heroines
  • The One Great Story
  • Purpose is Never Forgettable
  • Questioning the Premise
  • Lining up
  • Flawed Alignment, Tragic Ending
  • The Three Rules in Storytelling
  • Write Your New Story


  • Turning your story into action
  • The Story Effect
  • Story Ritualizing
  • The Storyteller and the art of story
  • The Power of Your Story
  • Storyboarding your creative process
  • They Created and Lived Happily Ever After


The “What is your Story?” one day fee is Euro 995 excluding VAT per person

Questions? Contact Peter de Kuster at 0031 6 33661772 or mail him at



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