What is the best thing that I love about my work? I love the deep sense of peace and fulfilment that comes from helping others. I love that I get to choose my schedule, my location, how I work and how much I earn.
What is my idea of perfect happiness? To me perfect happiness is feeling completely at peace in the present moment, it’s that quiet state of mind that’s free of judgment, evaluation or comparison and it creates a feeling of “home” or heaven, once you taste that nothing else lives up to it.
What is my greatest fear? That I would leave this world not having contributed fully, not having made the best use of the gifts and purpose given me. I am also very afraid of giving birth!
What is the trait that I most deplore in myself? Messiness, I turn my home into a hurricane with clothes in particular, I spend a lot of time re-organising , messing up and re-organising again.
Which living persons in my profession do i most admire? I love Elsie Spittle, she’s my role model, twice my age and ten times my wisdom, she shares great insights that help us navigate being human and carries the message of the late Sydney Banks, a simple welder who had an enlightened experience and originator of the Three Principles. I also love my coach, Michael Neill, incredible writer, speaker and teacher.
What is my greatest extravagance? I love luxury homes and hotels, I spend a lot on staying in them whilst travelling. Right now my extravagance is a 5 bedroom villa with a pool in southern Italy. I love my home. I’m also very fond of expensive wines and handbags!
On what occasion would I lie? If I thought the truth was not helpful in that moment.
What is the thing that I dislike the most in my work? There’s always a bit of an admin/business side to being self employed, as much as I’d love to outsource everything I’ve learned it’s best to know how to do everything yourself and then outsource, so in a nutshell for me it’s admin bits . I still do all my own copywriting and I love that but formatting the mailers and getting it out there’s a bore.
When and where was I the happiest, in my work? Right now I’m happier than I’ve ever been, I feel my work is my soul expressing and without it I get easily down. I’m happy speaking with clients via zoom video or hosting them here at home with me in Italy. The form rarely matters as long as I’m coaching , teaching, sharing, I’m happy.
If I could, what would I change about myself? I’d love to be one of these people that was really self-disciplined , you know could stop after the third mouthful of pasta or wine or could get up at 6.30 every morning and work out but that’s simply not me.
What is my greatest achievement in work? Oh there’s a few. It was a huge achievement to have my brand CityGirl Confidence featured in Forbes as a top blog for women. It was a massive achievement to leave my job in the first place without knowing what else I could do and find myself 2 years later running an international coaching business. I’m also quite proud of the fact I’ve grown the business organically without spending all my hours behind the computer trying to master Facebook Ads and the like. I’m very low tech and living in a foreign country so it’s kind of amazing the business has grown so much without traditional methods.
Where would I most like to live? I love where I am here in Puglia, Southern Italy and after travelling the world to see clients on a few occasions I’d say the other place I could easily live is California. I love Los Angeles and that whole spiritual vibe out there.
What is my most treasured possession? My engagement ring. It’s beautiful! We recently got engaged and I wake up looking at it every day with a deep sense of delight.
What is my most marked characteristic? Physically I’m 5ft 9 , you notice that immediately and personally people say I’m grounded and calm in the face of adversity.
What is my most inspirational location, in my city? There’s a beautiful terrace on a hill with stunning views that overlook the white city of Ostuni where I live , you can see the two cathedrals, the white washed walls ,the olive groves and the sea down below. I often record my GraceNote videos here as it makes a perfect backdrop.
What is my favourite place to eat and drink, in my city? I love Osteria Tempo Perso , which means Osteria of lost time. You really do feel like you lose all sense of time when you enter and eat there. It’s a restaurant inside a cave and I’ve even had coaching sessions over lunch in there. The food is typical Pugliese cuisine based on vegetables, like deep friend courgette flowers stuffed with ricotta cheese. Don’t get me started on the wine, it’s incedible!
What books influenced my life and how. A return to love by Marianne Williamson, it’s been a beautiful reminder on what love is all about and why we’re here. The Science of Getting Rich/The game of life and how to play it, both were very helpful for setting out some “rules” about how abundance gets created. I’ve bought French Women Don’t Get Fat, twice because it’s a wonderful book about how to eat without telling you what you should eat and what you can’t eat.
Who are my favorite writers? I mostly love non-fiction , I love something I can learn from really and so my favourite writers include Marianne Williamson, Michael Neill and Dr.John Demartini.
You Only Die Once. What music would I listen on my last day? Irish traditional, it would remind me of home and can go between soft and sad to fast and fun.
Who is my hero or heroine in fiction? I fell in love with Dorothy Gayle at a very young age, something about her journey was fascinating to me. That search for answers, for a way back home only to discover you’ve got it all within you. I went on that journey myself!
Who are my heroes and heroines in real life? My new real heroine is Juana Ines de la Cruz, she was a self-taught scholar and student of scientific thought during the 1600’s. She became a nun and began writing poetry dealing with topics such as love and feminism , this was celebrated throughout Mexico and Spain. Of course the church and male authorities didn’t like her popularity, couple that with her criticism of misogyny, she was often condemned. Nothing could have stopped her writing though, she recognised it as a gift from God and was a real female heroine of her time. There’s even a Netflix Series all about her now! Hero: I’d have to say my father here. He’s extremely courageous, I’ve seen him powerfully stand up for what’s right in the face of extreme adversity and I never felt afraid of anyone when he was around. I also learned from him to confidently say “No” and not be afraid of taking risks.
Which movie would i recommend to see once in a lifetime? The Wizard of Oz, it’s an oldie but a goodie and leaves the spectator open to interpret for his or herself a deeper meaning behind life.
What role plays art in my life and work? Living in Italy it’s a beautiful display of art daily my favourite form of art has always been found in how people dress, to me that’s an art. I find a lot of art in fashion.
Who is my greatest fan, sponsor, partner in crime? My partner Franceso is my biggest fan, he’s believed in me since the start, even when I’d no idea how I’d succeed he was there with no doubts just gentle encouragement to keep going.
Whom would I like to work with in 2018? I’m loving the niche that’s emerging in front of me, the woman who wants to start her own business or go out on her own after a career in some other field. I’d like to work more with her, she’s low tech, she’s interested in service and being on purpose doing what she loves. I’d also be happy to work more with Italian women, I’ve a better grasp of the language now and I think women in this culture are incredible. They’re hungry for their own success and big change. The future of Italy may well depend on her female patriots! If the opportunity strikes I’d love to work more alongside my coach Michael Neill.
Which people in my profession would i love to meet in 2018? I’d love to meet Dicken Bettinger, he’s an incredible spirit doing amazing coaching work using the Three Principles. I’d happily spend a week with him.
What project, in 2018, am I looking forward to work on? I’m rebranding and launching a whole new site in early 2018, this is the project I’m working towards now, it’s quite exciting really as it’s a move closer to where I am in my life now. When I started out I was the ambitious CityGirl who needed to achieve, in recent years I’ve relaxed and seen that success doesn’t depend on my going out and “making it happen”. I’ve come back home to Self, to Grace with a capital “G”, nothing to prove. I’d say I’m a lot more confident today and I’d like this rebrand to reflect more of me.
Where can you see me or my work in 2018? Initially still at CityGirlConfidence and then on GracefulCoaching.net. You can also subscribe to my YouTube channel for regular GraceNote videos to support you in navigating challenges in life and business .
What do the words “Passion Never Retires” mean to me? This phrase speaks to having passion for what you do and why would you retire passion, that makes for a dull life, I think what it really means to me is that when you do what you love there’ll always be passion.
Which creative heroes and heroines should Peter invite to tell their story? Michael Neill, Kara Gilligan, Paula Lacobara, Silvia Kratzer, Amanda Brighton.
How can you contact me?Grace@CityGirlConfidence.com