What is the best thing about my work? To create and use my brain, which is a way of living. I am a writer by nature. Everything I do, is linked to creation. My books – Exodus from the lighthouse with the main title Shadow behind and face towards the sun and the book Living gracefulness, a method to work on yourself, came out. My solitary studies on personal growth, empowerment and spirituality. My work in communications consultancy, training, speaking slots and presentation － on- and offline events, pod- and vodcasts. I love audio most, because I can go in-depth in no time, while people can listen on the go. It is all about the content and not about sub issues, such as imagines. Plus, I can use my ‘radiogenic’ voice. Put me in a studio, or let me (ghost)write in Dutch, English and French and I literally come to life.
What is my idea of perfect happiness? I’ve been on a quest my entire life, trying to discover what living gracefully / happiness means to many masters, within many spiritual systems and within myself. I just finished the entire volumes of A course in miracles, meaning the textbook containing 669 pages of abstract, the workbook containing daily, practical lessons and the manual for teachers containing a Q&A in 92 pages. This work resembles the teachings of Kabbala and is in line with the upcoming book Living gracefulness. I guess, I will use it the rest of my life. There is a reason why these younger works are embraced by so many, instead of the loaded (old legacy) theological, philosophical and dogmatic works. People don’t look for love / light / source / God where they lost it. There is a reason why they lost it, when and where they did. Now, they find the key within themselves, however that may be supported outwardly. The most interesting works are those of people showcasing what they did with all the abstracts and with their inner guidance, through their life stories. This is what I will do. It just is, is perfect happiness, especially when walking with Pom, my Pomeranian, or running.
What is my greatest fear? It used to be fear of vengeance, failure, to be forgotten after death, not liked while alive and not being able to fix the mess of this family. Maybe heights. I am not the type of person looking forward to jumping out of planes or something. Maybe anxiety as well, in terms of trusting others, but if I do, I am loyal.
What is the trait I most deplore? It changes throughout the seasons of life. I would say, what is in the continuum, has to do with self-acceptance.
Which living persons in my profession do I most admire? Iyanla Vanzant, Martha Beck, or my ‘rabbi’ Marianne Williamson. The list goes on. In short, writers researching the light and the dark, not covering up, not keeping brokenness or looking away, are precious to me. The ones taking the lead, turning darkness into light and with that, truly adding to the world. The warriors of the light. I will be be just that.
What is my greatest pitfall? Throughout the years, I’d say: to internalize the opinions of others about me, wanting to be liked by everyone on this planet. People who have no idea and their own agenda’s. I’ve seen a lot. The injustice button, so to speak.
On what occasion would I lie? Not. In fact, I invite people who think I ever lied about something, work related or private, to contact me, so we can sort it out. People who lie about me, or go behind my back: my patience has run out. I do not have any life forces for that anymore. I bless and release you. Goodbye. This may be the biggest trigger of all, because I come from a house in which nothing was what it seemed. Family members who lied and camouflaged everything for decades and continue to do so. I had to do everything in my power to distinguish true from false, starting at an age of two or three. Writing supported this. So again, there should never be an occasion to lie. There is no protection, grace or worthiness in it. Openness and transparency are at the core of a healthy, sustaining and evolving relationship and society.
What is the thing I dislike the most in my work? Politics and the fact that I am worth much more. It all goes back to self-acceptance. Something to work on.
When and where was I the happiest, in my work? Again: brain and creation. In the studio, going in-depth and recording podcasts, when in the flow of writing/speaking and solitary studies, or some years ago, while volunteering as intermediary between perpetrators and victims (hence the VIVA400 Award; full-circle for me).
If I could, what would I change about myself? It changes throughout the seasons of life. I would say, what is in the continuum, has to do with self-acceptance. On a less serious note, I’d definitely like to be much skinnier and having fuller, natural eyebrows, a faster metabolism, stronger hormone levels, no endometriosis and much higher energy levels. Also, an African-American version of me would be nice. 😉
What is my greatest achievement in work? The ones that are still to come.
Where would I most like to live? I’m exactly where I want to be, in Amsterdam Old-South, my anchor and home.
What is my most treasured possession? Don’t know whether you could call it possession, but my cat Gischmo and dog Pom. Also, the hard copy of A course in miracles; the best €15 spent ever.
What is my most marked characteristic? I know a lot and am highly sensitive. Although I look feminine and have feminine traits, I am very masculine in my being. No blabla please. Let’s be result-driven and goal-oriented. If you say something, not only do it, but do it in the best manner possible. When it comes to the work in personal growth, empowerment and spirituality, I get the ‘flying’ mentality, but let’s go for a corporate attitude instead, because a ‘woo-woo’ vibe will not serve any individual or collective purpose at all. It’s just nice and uplifting in the moment, like a sugar rush leaving you more tired afterwards.
What is my most inspirational location, in my city? Sydney, Aussie-land, oh wait, in my city. That would be the serene Dina-Perla Loges.
What is my favorite place to eat and drink, in my city? Home.
What books influenced my life and how? So many. I always pick Warriors of the light, from Paulo Coelho, because it describes me best.
Who are my favorite writers? Any master, not only teaching theoretical spirituality, but practicing what he or she preaches. A mensch who respects the work of others, elevates colleagues, believes the force of love / light is real, a mensch who is a vital parent / family member / friend / member of society, in whatever role and is not fa(c)k (ebook)ing it from behind a screen, in hidden attics. Instead, a person who stands in the middle of everyday and communal life and knows what it means to be fully human.
You only die once. What music would I listen to on my last day? There is a list of symbolic songs, changing throughout the seasons of life. However, I think I played Blank & Jones the most so far, so I guess one of their relaxed editions.
Who is my hero or heroine in fiction? I’d pick the characters of Grey’s Anatomy. It is the only bit of television I watch, on demand though.
Who are my heroes and heroines in real life? Any individual with a graceful life. Also, anyone who could be on the OnBeing Podcast, my favorite media.
Which movie would I recommend to see once in a lifetime? Elizabethtown.
What role plays art in my life and work? It is my life and work.
Who is my greatest fan, sponsor, partner in crime? Max de Winter.
Whom would I like to work with in 2018? I’d like to continue working with different partners, (closed-up) communities, artists and any spirited person who reaches out.
Which people in my profession would I love to meet in 2018? Any master. I am not bound to the Netherlands in terms of writing, speaking and working. It would be a waste not to at least use the French and English potential and links. I see myself as a citizen of the world. You kind of have to when having North-African, French, Ukrainian and Italian roots and living in the Netherlands, don’t you?
What project in 2018 am I looking forward to work on? It is my biggest joy and pride to announce that 2018 will be dedicated to my books. Exodus from the lighthouse appeared already. Everything that comes along with it, will be top priority. It is a sort of coming out too. I will showcase abstract concepts, such as the spiritual life tree or other theoretical works in the evolution of life. From darkness to light; crucifixion to resurrection; illusions to truth; fear to love; judgment to peace, or however you prefer to see it. Also, there is something larger at work here. It is not even about a personal story anymore, but about the global goals of cleansing and transformation. It is about elevating to the next level as a whole, in order for some patterns not to reoccur and to break mechanisms that do not serve anymore. Later on in 2018, the book Living gracefully will appear and people will be able to try it out.
Where can you see me or my work in 2018? All details via http://dinaperlacoaching.com.
What do the words “Passion Never Retires” mean to me? Spirited vitality.
Which creative heroes and heroines should Peter invite to tell their stories? Any writer, so it does not matter which one. Writers are needed and saint to me.
How can you contact me? See http://dinaperlacoaching.com.