When someone says to me, “Everything happens for a reason”, I want to say, “Yes but is it your reason?” Life is not an accident. Through careful choices and persistent planning, you can control what happens to you. That sounds boring, does it not? It is not. We are talking about your future. The best way to deal with the future is to invent it!
What could be more exciting than trying to figure out what you want to have happen and make it so. If you live your life wandering around aimlessly, you are not likely to end up anywhere at all. If you live your life bouncing around, reacting to events and circumstances, you are giving control over where you will go next. This is not an ideal way to live – it is stressful and frustrating and not creative at all.
I believe that each of us comes prepackaged with a reason for being – a quest for your heroine’s journey. Unfortunately, there is no operating manual or help line to make it easy to figure out what that your quest is. Once you figure it out, however, life is soooo much easier and better. It means that you are living on a quest. This translates to doing the right work, in the right environment, with the right people and using your talents and abilities in a way that benefits others as well as yourself. This purpose covers every aspect of your life, including having people to love and who care about you.
You need a compass to navigate by in your heroine’s journey – your mission or quest – and a map so you can plot out the best (and even most scenic route, if that turns you on) way to get to where you are going (your goals). You can get blown off course and explore new routes, meet interesting people in faraway lands … but you always have your quest to guide you back. That is what your quest does for you.
When you aren’t sure what you should be doing with your life, it can feel like you’re in a free fall. For some, the rush of hurtling to the ground at terminal velocity is exhilarating. Some don’t even seem to realize that they don’t have anything (a parachute) to stop them from hitting the ground and going splat. Many romantic tales have been spun about the vagabond life. Just remember that these stories are written by people who have disciplined themselves not just enough to put pen to paper, but enough to sell their stories for publication.
Bein in control of your life means knowing what you want and working toward it. It means waking up every morning saying, ‘I have got the best job in the world. I absolutely love what I do’. If you can say that, everything else in your life will fall into place.
Some people like Coco Chanel know early on what they want. They are the lucky ones. Most of us struggle for a while before we find our niche. That’s okay. Enjoy the struggle. Consider it a voyage of discovery with a treasure at the end. Self knowledge is a wonderful thing.
Finish the Sentence
Let us play ‘finish the sentence’. Let your intuition be your guide. Go with your gut.
- I have no trouble focusing on….
- My idea of the perfect day is ….
- The most fun I can have with my clothes on is….
- The perfect attire to work in is …
- My dream is to ….
- I have always wanted to ….
- I am looking forward to ….
- I wish I could do ….. more often
- I know i have a talent for …
- I feel fantastic when I am ….
Commedia dell Arte
Some people spend their whole lives working against their strengths. It’s like swimming against the current. Your best chance for success is to select a business that allows you to use your talents and do the things you most enjoy doing. All too many people believe that if you’re getting paid for it, it’s work. And work is the opposite of fun. Which is why they make vacations, so you can put your life on hold for fifty weeks a year and stuff all your fun into that precious two weeks. Which is why they have sick days. Because you are sick if you think this is any way to live.
If you do what you enjoy doing and are good at it, you will be stronger and happier. Vacations will be the icing on the cake.